In August 2017, Tony Alarcon’s phone rang unexpectedly.
Like many parents, he thought it might be a telemarketer. But this time, he answered the call.
Hearing from the school can be nerve-wracking for any parent. Tony immediately started worrying—was his daughter, Demetra, okay? Had something happened?
What he found out left him surprised.
It was a hot summer day in Northern California, with temperatures reaching 90 degrees. Tony had dropped off his 13-year-old daughter, Demetra, at school that morning. She wore a blue romper to stay cool in the heat, and neither of them thought the outfit would cause any issues.
Demetra, a student at Raymond J. Fisher Middle School in Los Gatos, California, had simply dressed for the weather.
Not everyone agreed with Demetra’s outfit. A teacher at her school said her romper was “too distracting” for the boys.
When the teacher told Demetra that her outfit was too short, her dad, Tony, rushed back to the school with a change of clothes—jean shorts and a tank top. But the school said those clothes were also inappropriate.
Tony was shocked. He asked Demetra to bend over and touch her toes in front of the school administrator. “Nothing is hanging out. There’s nothing inappropriate. I don’t understand this dress code rule,” he told TODAY.
Still, the school said her clothes were “distracting.” Since it was 90 degrees outside, Tony had no choice but to go to his car and grab a pair of leggings for Demetra to wear.
Demetra felt embarrassed.
Tony expressed his frustration, saying, “She’s just a kid. She’s only 13. She’s not trying to be a sex symbol. She just wants to be comfortable and attend class, but we’re not giving her that chance.”
This wasn’t the first time Demetra had been in trouble for her clothes. Just a week before, she was called out for a visible bra strap. “When I got dress coded last week, they said my bra strap was showing,” Demetra told the *San Jose Mercury News*. “Like, I’m wearing a bra—what’s the big deal?”
Tony, a successful investment advisor and father of two, didn’t let it go. Angry at what he saw as an unfair rule that mostly targeted girls, he took his complaint to social media. Parents from all over the country showed their support, agreeing that the school’s dress code was outdated and unfair to girls.
“Demetra’s not the only one. If you sit in the school parking lot, you’ll see that,” Tony said. “Lots of girls just want to be comfortable, but they feel forced to wear leggings even when it’s 100 degrees outside.”
Tony believed that parents, not schools, should decide if their children’s clothes are appropriate. He was also worried about how being told their clothing is a “distraction” to boys could affect young girls emotionally in the long run.
The story quickly got attention from the media, with major news outlets reporting on Tony’s efforts to change the dress code. While the school didn’t speak on camera, they did release a statement:
“The Los Gatos Union School District believes that appropriate dress and grooming contribute to a productive learning environment,” the district said. “Students are expected to wear clothes that reflect the core values of our learning community.”
Tony’s efforts made an impact. His push for change led the Los Gatos Union School District to reevaluate its dress code to make it fairer and less strict for all students.
Lisa Fraser, the school’s principal, explained that the dress code rules, called “Fashion Faux Pas,” apply to both girls and boys. Some of the rules include no hats or hoods indoors, no visible underwear, no inappropriate logos or words, and shorts must have at least 4-inch inseams.
“There has always been a dress code,” Fraser told a newspaper. “These are basic rules for appropriate behavior. I can set guidelines for the school, but I want them to reflect the community’s values.”
In the end, Tony Alarcon’s persistence started an important discussion about how school dress codes affect young girls — showing that one parent’s voice can truly make a difference.
What do you think about the school’s dress code? Have you or your children faced a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!
Brad Paisley & Kimberly Williams Privately Raise Their 2 Kids in Cozy Log House
Brad Paisley enjoys being a family guy with his actress wife Kimberly Williams and his children while he’s not on the road or in the studio creating new music. In Williamson, the couple resides in their ideal house.
Brad Paisley has always wanted it all: a secure career, kids, a dream home in Williamson, Tennessee, a beautiful wife who was his longtime obsession. It’s reasonable to say that Brad is living the life of his dreams, but it all began with a tiny step and a bag full of dreams.
Born in West Virginia’s Glen Dale, Paisley had a clear idea of his goals in life by the time he was eight years old. Paisley was a huge music enthusiast who amazed his hometown with his skills.
After his first trip to Tennessee, the child was even more certain that music was his calling. Paisley relocated to Tennessee well into maturity, having left behind his early years.
The singer once said that Tennessee was considerably larger and the quantity of talent there may make one realize they were not the finest, therefore he was glad he started in Glen Dale. The “She’s Everything” crooner enrolled at Belmont University, which was close to record labels, to launch his career.
It came to pass that he pursued music in addition to getting a degree. These days, Paisley has moved past his difficult times and is reaping the benefits with his 20-year wife, Kimberly Williams.
Kimberly and Paisley’s RomanceDespite being married for twenty years, Paisley’s romantic history with her dates back to the early 1990s, since he had fallen in love with her before they even met.
When Williams’ song “Father Of The Bride” captured Paisley’s attention in 1991, he was still in his early stages of success. After a difficult breakup four years later, he watched “Father of the Bride II” to help him forget his problems.
It was a bright spot of sunshine to see Williams’ face again, and he found her to be witty and kind. In an interview with Good Housekeeping, he revealed:
“She seems like a fantastic girl—smart, humorous, and all those qualities that are so hard to find,” I thought to myself.
After acclimating to life in the spotlight, Paisley won the ACM award for best male vocalist in 2002. He talked about his breakup and his experiences viewing “Father Of The Bride” in his song “Part II.” This suggested that he was still thinking about Williams.
When their paths crossed in the same year, he invited Williams to appear in the music video for his song, “I’m Going To Miss Her.”
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