My mother did everything in her power to prevent me from seeing my father after they divorced. But once my dad tricked me on the phone, and everything changed.
“I don’t want to see you ever again!” my mom yelled as my father got into the car and left our home forever. That was my earliest memory. Dad left when I was two years old after a huge fight with my mother.
They got divorced, and I didn’t see him for many years. As I got older, I realized that my mother was preventing me from seeing my father. “I want to visit Dad. Please!” I begged when I was ten years old.
“No! You can’t go see him. He’s busy with his new family and doesn’t want to see you,” she replied.
“I know that’s not true! You’re lying to me! I talk to him on the phone, and he wants to see me!” I cried, pleading with her to see my father.
“Don’t talk back to me, Alexandra! Your father left us and doesn’t deserve to have a relationship with you now,” Mom said. I thought that was unfair, but I was still just a child.
My dad and I kept in constant contact over the phone, but I really wanted to spend time with him, and I knew he wanted the same. However, Mom was an expert at getting her way.
As a teenager, I decided to go on my own to see him, and she called the cops on me. They picked me up before I could reach his house and drove me back home.
“The next time you try to disobey me, I will say that your father kidnapped you, and he will go to jail where he belongs!” she screamed at me when the cops left.
Back then, I thought she was doing the right thing for me, but as I grew up, I realized that it was pure selfishness on her part. I didn’t want to hang out with her or do anything. I also started rebelling at school. She drove a huge wedge between us, and I didn’t care anymore.
“Alexandra, do you want to go shopping with me?” she asked me one day. I was 17 years old and had grown to almost hate her.
“Nope,” I answered.
“How about the movies?”
“Nope.”
“Why don’t you want to do anything with me?” she whined.
“Really? You’re asking me that question? You know exactly why I treat you this way,” I said in a bored tone.
“I have done nothing to you! All the sacrifices I have made for you, and you’re so ungrateful!” Mom yelled once more.
“Yeah, ok. Close the door, please,” I added.
By then, I was immune to her tantrums and how she victimized herself to get away with things. I moved out as soon as I turned 18 and never looked back.
But seeing my dad wasn’t any easier. I had to work two jobs and go to school. He was also busy with work, and his second wife had just delivered twins by then. Neither of us had time, so we put it off.
I met with him on a Saturday afternoon at his house and met his wife. They showed me the twins, and we talked for a while. But it felt so awkward that I didn’t want to do it again. Maybe my mother had ruined any chance I had at a relationship with him.
We talked on the phone for a long time once a week. I asked about the twins and told him about my life. It wasn’t ideal, but it worked for us. Years went by this way. I didn’t hear of my mother until I was 29 years old.
“Hey, Alexandra,” she spoke on the phone tentatively.
“Oh, hey, Mom,” I answered, confused with her call.
“We haven’t talked in a long time. How are you?” she asked.
“I’m fine. How about you?” I replied. We chitchatted awkwardly for a few minutes, and then she got to the point.
“Listen, honey. I was hoping that we could work on mending our relationship. How does that sound?” Mom wondered.
“I don’t know. Are you going to apologize for everything?” I retorted.
“I…I still don’t think I did anything wrong. I was trying to protect you from being hurt like I was when you were little. But I understand that you felt differently,” she explained.
“So, you’re not apologizing?” I continued, tired of this conversation. She was never going to acknowledge her wrongs, and I had no time for that.
“Alexandra! I’m your mother. You haven’t talked to me in years! You’re so selfish!” she wailed, raising her voice.
“Ok, goodbye,” I said and hung up the phone. She tried calling me back, but I ignored her. I would not let her back into my life until she apologized.
Another year went by, and I received a strange call from my dad. He never called during working hours. “Alexandra! This is an emergency! Can you come to see me?” Dad said urgently through the phone.
“What? Dad? What’s going on?” I asked, worried.
“I sent you an address. Come quickly! This is a matter of life or death!” he told me and hung up.
I went to my boss, took a day off work, and ran to my car. But the address Dad gave me took me right to an amusement park close to his house.
“Hey, honey!” he smiled when I met him at the front gate.
“Dad! Why are we here? What’s the emergency?” I asked, confused.
“The emergency is that you and I never got to do all the fun things father and daughters do over the years. We have put off building a real relationship, and I don’t want to waste any more time. Let’s go have fun!” Dad explained.
“Can you go on the rides? I know you have had some health problems lately,” I said hesitantly.
“I’m fit as a fiddle. Come on!” he urged.
We spent the entire day at the park and talked about everything. I felt like a child for the first time in my life, and it was wonderful.
I also told him about my problems with Mom and how hard it was when she didn’t let me see him. “Your mother is complicated and full of pride. But she’s not evil. We didn’t work out, and she couldn’t take it,” he started.
“Yeah, I wished I could’ve lived with you,” I told him.
“Well, I was pretty lost for many years trying to figure things out. We might have hated each other. But here we are, and I think you should patch things up with her. Life is too short to hold grudges,” he said.
After that marvelous day at the park, we went to dinner. When I got home, I called Mom and told her everything I felt regarding my dad. How she hurt me back then by not letting me spend time with him and how fun our day had been. She cried and apologized to me for the first time. I felt like she understood, and we started talking more often.
Meanwhile, I grew closer to my dad and loved babysitting my twin half-siblings. We even took them to the amusement park for a fun day too.
I finally had the childhood I always wanted.
What can we learn from this story?
Divorce happens between couples, not with children. Alexandra’s mother didn’t understand that her father divorced her but wanted a relationship with their daughter.
Life is too short for grudges. Alexandra’s father is right. Sometimes, it’s better to forgive for your own sake. Let go of things that make you angry, and your mental health will improve.
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Family Vacation Turns Nightmare: Parents of 6 Die in Rip Current Disaster
A Pennsylvania c
ouple sadly lost their lives while on vacation in Florida with their six children, after being caught in a rip current.
Brian Warter, 51, and Erica Wishart, 48, were swimming with two of their teenage children on Hutchinson Island on June 20 when they got caught in the dangerous current.
The teenagers managed to make it to safety, but their parents were unable to escape the strong ocean waves.
The Martin County Sheriff’s Office shared details about the tragic event. The statement said that the teenagers tried hard to save their parents but couldn’t fight the powerful current. Emergency services arrived quickly and started rescue efforts. Sadly, even after being taken to a nearby hospital, Brian and Erica were pronounced dead by the doctors.
Phillyburbs.com reported that the water conditions were very dangerous that Tuesday afternoon. Red flags were flying at the beach to warn swimmers about the risky rip tides, according to Cory Pippen from Martin County Fire Rescue. These flags are meant to alert people about dangerous water conditions like strong rip currents.
Larry Warter, Brian’s father, told CBS 12 News that Brian and Erica had been together for over a year and were engaged to be married. Erica was a mother of four, and Brian had two children. The couple planned to wait until all their kids finished college before getting married. Their trip to Stuart, Florida, was a big event for them.
“They were so excited about this trip,” Larry Warter said. “It was their first time taking all six kids on vacation together. They had been planning it for over a month.”
Brian Warter’s parents shared their deep love for the couple. Larry Warter said, “You could clearly see the love between Brian and Erica if you were around them.” Susie Warter, Brian’s mother, mentioned that everyone who knew the couple loved them, and there was great excitement about their future together.
The Warter family has received a lot of support from their community. “We’ve been overwhelmed by the offers of help and support. We thought we were going through this alone, but we haven’t been,” Larry Warter said.
On a fundraising page, Wayne Sallurday paid a heartfelt tribute to Erica. “Erica was an amazing person. She was a loving mother to her two sons and two daughters, with her youngest son being adopted at a young age,” the post stated.
“Erica worked at an elementary school teaching special needs children and later in the school library. She also spent a lot of time helping at her local church. We could go on and on, but you get the picture. She was one of the nicest people you could ever meet.”
The GoFundMe page created in their memory has raised over $60,000, showing the community’s generous response to the tragedy.
The National Weather Service provides important advice about rip currents on its website. It points out that while rip currents won’t pull swimmers underwater, they can quickly tire them out. Staying calm is very important.
“Trying to swim directly against a rip current will just use up your energy, which you need to survive and escape the current. Don’t swim straight to the shore. Instead, swim along the shore until you’re out of the current’s pull. Once you’re free, swim at an angle away from the current toward the shore,” the website advises. It also suggests never swimming alone and following the rule, “If in doubt, don’t go out!”
This tragic event highlights the dangers of rip currents and the need to follow safety warnings when swimming.
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