Calling someone “fat” can be a hurtful insult. But why is that?
This question came up when a mother named Allison shared her story about a recent swimming trip with her children. When her daughter called her fat, 30-year-old Allison had a clever response, and her message is now spreading quickly online.
Allison Kimmey began dieting when she was just 14 years old. She managed to stay at a size two to four through graduate school, but it was tough, and she wasn’t happy. Three years ago, at age 27, Allison reached a size eight and realized she would be much happier if she stopped fighting against her weight gain.
To motivate herself, Allison started an Instagram account, @allisonkimmey, where she shares pictures and inspirational messages. Her body positivity spreads joy and encourages her followers, but her important message doesn’t always reach everyone.
**Me:** “Actually, everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts.”
**Her brother:** “Oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me.”
**Me:** “Yes, that’s true. Some people have a lot, and others don’t have much. But that doesn’t mean one person is better than the other. Do you both understand?”
**Both:** “Yes, mama.”
**Me:** “So can you repeat what I said?”
**Them:** “Yes! I shouldn’t say someone is fat because you can’t just be fat, but everyone HAS fat, and it’s okay to have different fat.”
**Me:** “Exactly right!”
Not only did Allison want to teach her children how to talk to others, but she also felt it was important to spread the message that everyone is equal, no matter their body shape. Now, her post on Instagram has gone viral.
“If I shame my children for saying it, then I’m proving that it’s an insulting word and continuing the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical, and undesirable,” writes Allison.
My wife posted this photo online and she found out later that the image was the reason I wanted a divorce
Starting a Journey
With her childhood friend Emma, Sarah, a free-spirited lady with an insatiable thirst for adventure, set out on a day excursion to the mountains.
Seizing the Moments
Enthused with their excursion, Sarah took a picture of herself embracing her horse in front of the striking mountains with the intention of showing her spouse, Jack, who was unable to accompany them, what they had experienced.
Spreading the Joy
After putting the picture online, Sarah was excited to share Jack’s happiness with him. Her delight quickly gave way to dismay, though, as Jack called a few seconds later to express his shock.
Breaking Down the Deceit
As soon as Jack saw the picture, he called Emma to find out Sarah’s location. Sarah’s assertion that she was with her in the mountains was refuted by Emma’s admission that she was bringing up her daughter from school.
The Outcomes
Sarah’s heart fell when she realized how serious her lie was. She might have protested, but Jack had lost her trust forever.
The Heartbreaking Conclusion
Jack made the devastating decision to dissolve their marriage, with the innocent snapshot serving as the impetus for their breakup.
Considering Betrayal
Sarah struggled with the fallout and regretted the lie that caused her marriage to fail. The narrative emphasizes the value of openness and honesty in partnerships as well as the terrible effects of betrayal.
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