We all have different traditions when it comes to commemorating and paying tribute to our loved ones who have passed away.
In today’s world, honoring the customs of others while commemorating the lives of the departed ought to come as standard practice. Some may choose to follow traditions or practices that the rest of us are not familiar with, but it doesn’t make them any less legitimate.
The same is true with gravestones and the ornamentation certain families choose to place over their loved ones’ last resting places. Coins being placed on headstones is one custom that is widely practiced and that you have probably witnessed at some point. However, why is this even a thing? And from whence did it originate? Continue reading to learn more.
Coins are traditionally placed on gravestones in cemeteries around the United States and other countries. When I was a little child, I first observed it when I was at my grandfather’s tomb, and even then, I started to wonder what it was all about.
Luckily, finding the beginnings online doesn’t need much research. Although it was previously thought that the practice originated with Roman military troops, a number of sources have disproved that theory in recent years.
Still, there’s a military connection to leaving pennies on gravestones. The American Legion Website states on one of its pages that it can be linked to the Vietnam War.
“Leaving a coin was considered a more practical way to communicate that you had visited the soldier’s grave than contacting the soldier’s family, which could devolve into an uncomfortable argument over politics relating to the war, due to the political divide in the country over the war.”
There are other reasons why veterans leave pennies on gravestones in memory of their fallen friends; occasionally, they do so in order to purchase a beer for them. Each coin represents a different meaning, according to reports.
For instance, a nickel is left by someone who served in boot camp with the deceased, whereas a penny just indicates that someone was present.
On the other hand, a dime represents a combined period of military service. Next are quarters, which inform the family of the presence of whoever left the coin at the moment of the loved one’s passing.
Ever notice a penny left on a gravestone? Were you aware of its meaning? Tell us in the comments below.
My FIL Demanded That I Pay $6000 for His Retirement Trip, So My Wife and I Taught Him a Good Lesson
My FIL Demanded That I Pay $6000 for His Retirement Trip, So My Wife and I Taught Him a Good Lesson
Retired FIL’s cruise invite turned $6000 shocker leads to a clever family counterplot. A budget-friendly voyage, a faux breakdown, and a cheeky postcard teach lessons in financial wisdom and family respect, steering through high seas drama to a harmonious resolution.
So, my father-in-law, George, recently retired and decided to celebrate big time. He invited the entire family, including my wife, Sarah, our kids, and me, on a cruise. We were all thrilled, especially the kids, who packed their bags a week in advance, buzzing with excitement.
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Now, let me paint you a picture: we’re a happy, middle-class family. We work hard, save up for rainy days, and occasionally splurge on family vacations. So, this cruise invitation seemed like a stroke of luck, a perfect getaway to celebrate George’s retirement. The anticipation was building, and tomorrow was supposed to be the day we set sail into this fantastic adventure.
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But here’s where things took a jaw-dropping turn. George casually asked me to check my email for the tickets. I thought, “Great, let’s get those boarding passes printed and ready!” But when I opened the email, my excitement crashed harder than a wave during a storm. There wasn’t just a ticket confirmation. Oh no, there was a message from George saying, “Transfer the money to my bank account,” accompanied by a whopping $6000 bill for the cruise!
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I stared at the screen, thinking it had to be a mistake. Surely, George wouldn’t invite us on a trip and then hand us the bill, right? Wrong! When I called him to ask what the heck was going on, he dropped the bomb: “We had a family talk and decided that you should cover everyone on this trip because you’re the ‘man of the house,’ earning good money now that I’m retired.”
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I was speechless. We’ve always been generous with family, but this was beyond anything I could fathom. It’s not like we’re swimming in cash—we have bills, a mortgage, and kids’ education to think about. This $6000 bill was not in our budget, and George’s entitlement felt like a slap in the face.
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I tried to reason with him, hoping he’d see how unreasonable this was. But no, he was adamant that we should foot the entire bill, even suggesting we take out a loan if necessary! “George, about this cruise bill… We were really taken aback by the cost. It’s a lot more than we anticipated.”
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“Well, you’re the provider in the family now. I’ve done my part, and it’s time for you to step up,” said George nonchalantly.
“But George, we can’t just pull out $6000 like it’s nothing. We have our own financial plans and responsibilities.”
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George shrugged. “You have a stable job, don’t you? I don’t see why you’re making such a fuss. Just get a loan or figure it out. It’s for family, after all.”
That chat felt like talking to a brick wall. George was adamant that because I’m married to his daughter and doing well, I should cover the entire trip. His lack of understanding was astounding.
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Afterwards, I relayed everything to Sarah. We sat in our living room, tension hanging in the air like a thick fog.
Sarah was visibly upset. “I can’t believe Dad is doing this. It’s like he’s completely disregarded our financial situation.”
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“He’s stuck on this idea that I should bear the whole cost because I’m the ‘man of the house.’ It’s ridiculous.” I sighed deeply.
Sarah started pacing back and forth. “We can’t just give in to his demands. But the kids… they’d be heartbroken if we canceled now.”
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We were torn between our financial sanity and the kids’ happiness. The conversation went round and round, with both of us feeling trapped between a rock and a hard place.
After a while, Sarah finally stopped to look at me. “There’s got to be a way to sort this out without jeopardizing our finances or disappointing the kids.”
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We spent the rest of the night brainstorming, trying to concoct a plan that wouldn’t end with us resenting George or saddling ourselves with debt.
After much debate and distress, Sarah and I finally hatched a plan that turned the tables in the most unexpected way.
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First off, let me say that Sarah is a genius. Late one night, after endless discussions and what felt like a million cups of coffee, she had a lightbulb moment. “Why don’t we just book a separate, more affordable cruise for us and the kids?” she suggested, her eyes sparkling with a mix of mischief and determination. “We can still have a family vacation, just without the financial strain and… George’s company.”
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It was brilliant. We found a modest cruise that was set to sail around the same time as George’s lavish extravaganza. It was perfect for our budget and still promised loads of fun for the kids. We booked it right away, feeling a mix of relief and excitement.
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But the real kicker? We concocted a little scheme to make a point to George. On the day of departure, we were all supposed to drive to the port together. Everything was going smoothly until, just a few blocks from George’s house, I pulled over. “Oh no, I think the car’s broken down!” I exclaimed, feigning panic.
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George, already in high spirits about the cruise, was flustered. “What? Now? But we can’t miss the ship!”
With our best acting skills, Sarah and I insisted he go ahead without us. “Don’t worry, we’ll sort this out and catch up with you,” Sarah assured him, hiding her grin.
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So, George and his entourage went on without us, clueless about our actual plan. Meanwhile, we headed to a different port and embarked on our delightful, budget-friendly cruise.
Now, for the pièce de résistance: Before we left, we’d arranged with George’s cruise company to make a special announcement. Just as they set sail, the captain cheerfully announced, “Welcome aboard! Thanks to the generous contribution from our esteemed guest, George, you’re all upgraded to an all-expenses-paid experience with premium amenities!”
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So, after we executed our plan and set sail on our own budget-friendly cruise, we were buzzing with anticipation about how things were unfolding on George’s luxury liner. According to a few relatives who were in on our plan and went on the cruise with George, the announcement about his supposed ‘generous contribution’ for the premium upgrades made quite the splash.
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They told us that when the captain made the announcement, thanking George for his grand gesture, the entire ship erupted in applause. George was visibly confused and utterly mortified, trying to wave off the cheers and explain the misunderstanding. But of course, the more he protested, the more people praised his ‘generosity’ and ‘big heart.’ The relatives said it was like watching a comedy show, with George as the unwitting star.
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Meanwhile, on our end, we were having the time of our lives. Our cruise might not have had the lavish amenities of George’s, but it was perfect for us. The kids were having a blast with all the onboard activities, and Sarah and I could finally relax, knowing we hadn’t broken the bank or caved to unreasonable demands.
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In a moment of cheeky inspiration, Sarah suggested we send George a postcard. “Greetings from our actual cruise! Thanks for the lesson in standing our ground and managing our finances wisely. Enjoy your ‘generosity’! Love, your financially savvy in-laws.”
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As we enjoyed the simpler pleasures of our cruise, I couldn’t help but reflect on the absurdity of the situation. We had managed to teach George a lesson in respect and boundaries, all while ensuring our family still got to enjoy a much-needed vacation.
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