As parents, we tend to teach our children to know right from wrong, but oftentimes, because of different reasons, we fail. One father learned that his daughter was bullying a girl who had cancer at school. Things went far and she even pulled the girl’s wig off. This made the father angry so he decided to take matters in his own hands and punished his daughter in a way that caused a stir, as well as mixed emotions, on the Internet. Since many slammed him for how he dealt with his bully daughter, the father later deleted the post.
“My ex-wife and I have a 16-year-old daughter together of which I have full custody (she has moved on with her new family)… My daughter recently got in trouble at school for making fun of a student that lost her hair from cancer treatment. Including pulling off her wig,” he started his post.
“Apparently there is some pre-existing bad blood between the two of them, but I don’t think that even begins to excuse her behavior.”
As it turned out, his daughter was now dating this other girl’s ex-boyfriend and that was the reason why they weren’t fond of each other.
“At some point the other girl mentioned how my daughter’s boyfriend was just using her for sex (this was actually a big shock to me as I had no idea she was sexually active) and called my daughter a sl*t,” the father shared with CafeMom. “That’s what escalated the situation and resulted in the wig incident. Supposedly they have been arguing in class ever since my daughter started dating the guy in question. Basically just stupid teenage ‘he said she said’ nonsense.”After he learned of what was going on and what his daughter did, he gave her two options to choose from in order to teach her a lesson. The first one was for him to throw all her electronics away, and the second one was for her to go to the hairdresser and get a bald haircut. The daughter chose the latter and went to school with a bald head.
“…Everyone thinks I went way overboard. Her mother went ballistic at me saying it will make her the target of bullying (kind of the point, teach her some compassion),” the father wrote.
He believed he did just the right thing, but not many agreed with him. A lot of people took their time to comment on the situation. One person wrote: “Your daughter is a bully because you are a bully. I seriously doubt this is the first time you used abuse and humiliation to ‘teach her a lesson.’” Another person added: “There’s a term for what you did. It’s called child abuse. Taking away her electronics would have been an appropriate punishment. Grounding her would have been an appropriate punishment. Disrespecting her right to bodily autonomy and humiliating her is not an appropriate punishment. She’s unlikely to learn from it and if anything it risks perpetuating a cycle of bullying.”
However, there were also those who praised his parenting. “I support your decision completely. You’re her parent so you have every right to do this, it’s not abusive, it’s real life. If she’s comfortable attacking someone for something they have no choice over she needs to see how it feels,” someone in support of the father wrote.
“She will see what kind of impact actions like hers have on the victim and that will teach her a very important lesson,” another supporter added.
So, what do you think? Do you believe the father went too far with the punishment? Share your thoughts with us in the comment section below.
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I Took a Photo for a Family of Strangers, and a Week Later, I Got a Message from Them That Made My Blood Run Cold
I took a photo of a happy family in the park, thinking nothing of it. A week later, I received a chilling message: “IF YOU ONLY KNEW WHAT YOU HAVE DONE TO OUR FAMILY.” My mind spiraled, questioning what I could have possibly triggered. Another message followed, and the truth shattered me in ways I never imagined.
That day had been ordinary. The sun was warm, kids laughed, and couples strolled hand in hand. I had been walking alone, still carrying the weight of my grief over Tom. Then I noticed the family on the bench, their happiness a painful reminder of the life I lost.
The father asked me to take their picture, and I obliged. Their smiles were perfect. The mother thanked me, exchanging numbers just in case. I left, not thinking much of it, but that brief moment would soon return to haunt me.
Days later, sitting on my patio, I received the first message. Panic set in as I wondered what I had done. Did I capture something I shouldn’t have? Was I responsible for some unseen tragedy? My mind raced with questions.
Then came the second message: “You took our picture on August 8th. My wife passed away yesterday, and that is the last photo we have as a family.”
The world stopped. The woman’s face, her warm smile, her love for her children—it was all gone, just like that. The guilt hit hard. I envied her happiness, and now it was forever lost. I wept for her, for the family, for myself. But in my grief, I realized that in taking their photo, I had given them a precious final memory.
It was a bittersweet reminder that even in dark times, we can create moments of light for others. And sometimes, those small acts can mean more than we ever know.
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