I Told My Friend She Married a Useless Man, and Now She Hates Me

I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.

I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).

I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).

Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.

My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.

It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.

She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….

I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.

Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.

Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.

She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.

I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.

Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.

Legendary Actor Dustin Hoffman’s Secret Battle with Cancer and Triumphant Journey to Recovery

The gifted actor Dustin Hoffman, well known for his part in Rain Man, battled and overcame cancer in a low-key manner in 2013. Even after winning, he made the decision to keep his recovery from illness a secret, hardly ever sharing it with anyone. Following a successful course of cancer treatment, Hoffman was “feeling great and in good health,” according to his publicist, Jodi Gottlieb. Through early detection and surgery, the cancer was completely healed.

Hoffman initially gained notoriety in 1967 for his breakthrough performance in the romantic comedy The Graduate, for which he was nominated for his first Academy Award. He made a lasting impression on the film industry and rose to fame at the age of thirty. Hoffman gave outstanding performances in films such as the moving drama Kramer vs. Kramer (1979) and the 1976 film All the President’s Men.

Hoffman portrayed a guy in Tootsie who passed for a woman in order to land a part in a soap opera, making it one of his most iconic roles. Hoffman said that the event had a significant influence on his view of women.

Hoffman was shocked to learn that he wasn’t considered conventionally attractive as a woman. He came to see how women’s appearance was unduly constrained by society expectations. This insight permanently altered his behavior toward women, both in real life and on screen.

Even though Tootsie was a huge hit, Hoffman saw beyond its comedic merits. Soaring to become the second highest-grossing movie of the year, the picture delved into more significant subjects and struck a strong chord with viewers.

Hoffman won his first Oscar for Kramer vs. Kramer in 1988 before taking home his second Oscar for his outstanding performance in Rain Man. Six Golden Globe Awards and one Primetime Emmy were given to him in recognition of his talent. Hoffman was in great demand in the market and his career was booming.

But in 2013, he abruptly disappeared from the spotlight, leaving his followers to wonder where he had gone. They had no idea that Hoffman was secretly fighting cancer.

The reason for his seclusion wasn’t made public until a few months after he directed the British comedy Quartet in 2012 and finished filming Chef in 2014, in which he co-starred with Jon Favreau and Sofia Vergara. Hoffman had received cancer treatment, but his representative revealed that he had opted to keep the information private. Hoffman was in good condition and had completely recovered from the illness, Jodi Gottlieb informed the public.

Hoffman suffered from health issues, yet he never let that stop him. He has starred in many films since receiving the cancer diagnosis, such as Sam and Kate in 2022 and the impending science fiction drama Metropolopolis in 2024. Furthermore, from 2008 and 2024, he provided the voice of the adored Master Shifu in two additional Kung Fu Panda franchise films.

Hoffman and his spouse were recently sighted walking through the streets of London, as content and in love as ever. The 86-year-old Hollywood icon looked young and carefree while he engaged with cameras and browsed boutiques with his 43-year-old wife.

The path taken by Dustin Hoffman is evidence of his tenacity and unwavering love for what he does. Many people find inspiration in his fight against illness, which serves as a reminder that despite obstacles, it is still possible to triumph and go after our goals.