In a moment of turmoil, a woman found solace in her grandmother’s remarkable response to her husband’s infidelity. Life often presents us with difficult situations, prompting us to seek counsel from those we trust and love, offering a sense of companionship amidst the chaos.
Upon discovering her husband’s affair, the woman’s world shattered. Seeking comfort and guidance, she turned to her grandmother. With wisdom beyond years, the elderly woman led her granddaughter to the kitchen. There, amidst boiling pots, she imparted a profound lesson.
Filling three vessels with water, the grandmother added an egg, a carrot, and coffee beans. She urged her granddaughter to observe as each element reacted differently to the boiling water. Patience, the grandmother emphasized, was key amidst confusion and turmoil. As the water simmered, she instructed her granddaughter to retrieve the carrot and explain its transformation.
Reflecting on the softened egg, the weakened carrot, and the infused aroma of coffee, the grandmother posed a question: which element would her granddaughter choose to be? In life’s trials, she explained, we may soften like the egg or weaken like the carrot. Yet, the coffee beans symbolized resilience, actively altering their environment.
Choosing to be the coffee beans, the woman learned the power of resilience and determination. She resolved not to be defined by adversity but to shape her circumstances. In that kitchen conversation, the woman gleaned invaluable wisdom, transforming a moment of despair into a lesson of strength and resilience.
Vet reveals the shocking reason you should never hug your dog
A vet has warned how a ‘hug’ can make a dog feel, and it’s not necessarily what you would expect
A vet has warned that it could be a bad idea to ‘hug’ your dog, as it could have the opposite effect on them to what us humans feel.
There’s nothing nicer than coming home from a long day at work to your furry friend scurrying as fast as they can to the door to greet you.
Your natural reaction is usually to bend down and give them a big cuddle, and whilst it might look like they’re loving every second – it might not be what they’re really feeling.
Dog experts are now warning owners to find different ways of showing their love.
According to a vet who spoke to Psychology Today, a hug can actually make a dog feel quite anxious and trapped – this is because a dog’s primary defence is to run away.
Psychologist Stanley Coren explained: “Yes, your dog may leap into your lap and kiss your face, cuddle against your neck, and beg you to rub her belly.
“But that’s not ‘hugging.’
“In my experience, many dogs don’t enjoy having a human move one or two arms around their shoulders and squeeze.
“That’s the hug we are talking about.”
Behaviour Vets author Lauren Novack believes dogs who do enjoy hugs are a complete ‘exception’, reports Daily Paws.
She said: “When dogs don’t like something and politely ask for space over and over again to no avail, they’re likely to escalate their communication to growling or biting.
“I don’t want dogs to be stressed, and I don’t want humans to get bitten. For most dogs, hugs are stressful.”
Stanley previously analysed 250 photos of dogs being given hugs, and he found that in 80% of the images, the dogs showed signs of looking stressed.
And he noted that this can be indicated by a dog lowers their ears, closing their eyes, or turning away from the source of anxiety.
And the psychologist has now revealed some much better alternatives.
He said: “The clear recommendation to come out of this research is to save your hugs for your two-footed family members and lovers.
“It is clearly better from the dog’s point of view if you express your fondness for your pet with a pat, a kind word, and maybe a treat.”
And the last thing we want to do is upset our furry babies, so we’re definitely going to take this advice on board!
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