According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
You Won’t Believe How Much John Travolta’s Daughter Looks Like Him at the 2024 Academy Museum Gala
John Travolta recently showed up at a big event in California with his oldest child. Like before, people were talking about which parent she looks like more.
On October 19, 2024, John Travolta caught the attention of many when he attended The Fourth Annual Academy Museum Gala with his daughter, Ella Bleu Travolta. Photos of the pair had people debating whether Ella looks more like her late mother, Kelly Preston, or her father.
John Travolta recently attended a big event in Los Angeles with his oldest child. The two posed together for red carpet photos, with Ella linking her arm through her father’s as they smiled for the cameras.
After their photos were shared on social media, many people commented on how much Ella looked like her father. One person wrote, “She is his twin! His beautiful daughter .” Another commenter noted, “All I see is her dad, lol. Like his mini-me.”
Some agreed with the comparisons, saying, “She’s beautiful! She has her dad’s eyes!” Others thought Ella resembled her late mother, Kelly Preston. One comment said, “I see her mom in her. Blessings to them. He seems to be a great father.”
Another user added, “The older she gets, the more she looks like Kelly Preston. What a beautiful young woman. You’ve done well, John. You must be so proud of her.” Someone else observed, “Ella’s resemblance to her mom Kelly is striking; she’s gorgeous!”
For those who had a different opinion, one person remarked, “She is the spitting image of her mom!” Another noted, “I think she is a perfect mix of them both. She is stunning.”
One netizen shifted the focus back to John, saying, “He is such a good man and a good father
When John and Ella appeared at the 2024 Paris Olympics on August 3, fans again noticed their resemblance. They attended to support the USA’s gymnasts, and many commented on how alike they looked.
One observer said, “She looks just like him,” while another remarked, “Look at his beautiful daughter, who is his doppelganger.” A third fan added, “She took his whole face!”
Others praised Ella, with one fan saying, “Wow she is beautiful .” Longtime fans of John, who remembered his role in the 1978 classic “Grease,” noted similarities between him and Ella. One fan said, “She’s John in Grease ,” and another added, “She is his twin from his younger days. Just watched Grease; never realized how handsome he was.”
Some fans also saw a resemblance to Uma Thurman’s character from “Pulp Fiction,” where John co-starred. One observer suggested, “She looks like she can star in Pulp Fiction.”
At the Academy Museum Gala, both wore matching black outfits. John wore a dark blazer, a matching T-shirt, blue jeans, sunglasses, and black shoes. Ella’s outfit featured a sleeveless black cropped top and high-waisted pants, which she paired with a black beret and strappy heels.
The pair sat in the VIP section with other celebrities, cheering for US gymnast Simone Biles during the finals.
In April 2024, Ella debuted her new bob haircut on Instagram, showing off her dark brown locks styled to frame her face. She playfully captioned the photo, “Fresh cut grass.”
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