This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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Jennifer Grey expresses her feelings about Patrick Swayze.
The iconic 1987 movie Dirty Dancing is a beloved classic that is nearly always at the top of people’s lists.
The film’s lead actor, the late Patrick Swayze, gained international recognition for his role in this beloved picture, and Jennifer Grey, who costarred with him, is still very much a part of its history.
Because she played “Baby” in Dirty Dancing, Jennifer Grey is well-known throughout the world. The narrative follows Baby and her family while they stay at a resort, highlighting her romantic encounter with Swayze’s disobedient dance teacher.
Many viewers have requested a sequel to this picture, which has quickly become a classic. Grey has only agreed to produce it—despite their demands—if a number of strict requirements are satisfied in order to respect Patrick Swayze and the film’s enduring popularity.
Years after the film’s release, Jennifer Grey was frequently asked about her experience working on Dirty Dancing. She acknowledged that she and Patrick Swayze had no relationship, but their physical appearances drew them together.
Lionsgate surprised everyone in April 2022 at Cinemacon by revealing their plans to create a sequel to the cult classic.
The next time Grey appeared was during an interview on The Drew Barrymore Show, where she discussed the idea for a future sequel.
Jennifer Grey recently talked about the upcoming Dirty Dancing sequel. She made it clear that when it came to offering the best possible flick, she would not make any exceptions.
She added that a few of the original cast members would be back in the movie. Furthermore, Johnny Castle, played by Patrick Swayze, will not have a successor; instead, his narrative and essence will be carried over into a different part in the follow-up.
Grey emphasized that the success of the movie depended on this difficult project.
When Patrick Swayze passed away in 2009, the entertainment industry and Jennifer Grey, his longtime co-star and companion, were devastated.
Despite their disagreements, Grey remarked after Swayze’s passing her deep sadness and remorse for not appreciating him more while he was still living.
In her memoirs, Out of the Corner, she paid a heartfelt homage to her past love, wishing she could have accepted him for who he was instead of expecting him to be someone else.
We wish Jennifer Grey all the best for her future goals, despite her tragic circumstances.
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