These days, young parents have tons of information about raising kids. There are books, websites, and experts offering advice on every little thing. They can even get consultations from specialists whenever they need. But our own parents didn’t have all that. They raised us based on what they knew and what they learned from their own parents. So sometimes, the way we were brought up can seem really different from what we’re told is best now.
1. Early marriage and parenthood go without saying.
In earlier generations, there was often pressure on young adults to marry and start a family at a relatively young age, and to have more than one child a couple of years after the start of the family. Today, there is more emphasis on personal and career development before settling down. And moreover some researches show that early marriage can lead to some family problems, like dissatisfaction with married life, experience of having lots of responsibility, lack of independence in family life.
2. A college education is an indicator of your status.
«You can’t find a good job without going to college!» Many people must have heard this when they were teenagers. And lots of us believed this, but now don’t even know where our college diploma is. More than 41% of people that finished college have jobs that don’t require this kind of education. Today, employers are more interested in the practical skills of their employees rather than their qualifications.
When you finish school, it may be wise to take a gap year to understand what you really want to do and decide if you actually need a college education.
3. Classes are good for kids’ development — the more, the better!
A very tight schedule can exhaust children, which is obviously not good at all.
Famous American teacher Douglas Haddad recommends that parents slow down and give their children time to discover their own talents, and then decide if they need additional forms of education.
4. Being plump is healthy.
Children that always finished their meals were praised, and being plump was believed to be healthy. But bad eating habits formed in childhood often result in weight problems and eating disorders.
5. Money can’t buy happiness.
We wish this were true, but life says otherwise: money can make you happier, no matter what other people say.
Parents should teach their children the basics of budgeting. This will help kids form the right habits in money management and reach financial success in their adult lives.
6. Not standing out from the crowd means being good.
Traditional parenting often enforced strict dress codes and grooming expectations, particularly regarding modesty and conformity to societal norms. This might puzzle us today as modern parenting encourages children to express themselves through their clothing, appearance and let them express their emotions fully.
7. Older children are responsible for younger ones.
Very often, older children had to spend a lot of time taking care of younger ones. Parents had to work a lot and there was no other choice. But older kids had to sacrifice their time with friends and hobbies for the needs of their younger siblings.
Psychologists say that sometimes when kids have to perform the duties of parents, it may lead to psychological problems: they might not want to have their own children.
8. Women are housewives and men are breadwinners.
In recent decades, gender roles are not as important anymore. Women today can build successful careers and men can go on paternity leave and manage things around the house.
9. There’s nothing more shameful for a woman than having children without a husband.
Wrong, again. Today, there’s nothing surprising about single mothers and they’re not frowned upon as they were 30 years ago. Very often, having a child without a husband is an informed decision made by a woman. More than that, in the past 30 years, the number of single fathers has increased 1.5 times.
10. Storks deliver babies.
Some topics were never discussed — like when kids asked where babies came from, parents often said that they were delivered by a stork. Because of this, young people would often get into their first relationship without any knowledge of their bodies. They only based things off of the advice they received from their friends and bits of information from books and films. All these experiences could lead to bad consequences, including problems with both physical and mental health.
11. Children should be seen and not heard.
In the past, children were often expected to remain quiet and obedient in the presence of adults. Modern parenting emphasizes the importance of children expressing themselves and their opinions, because self-expression is a vital component of a young individual’s growth. The development of self-esteem and confidence in children is frequently nurtured by their capacity to express their feelings with clarity and authenticity.
Every parent has their own way of raising children. Just like how every family has its own special traditions, parents have rules they think are best for their kids. Sometimes, famous people, like celebrities, also share their ideas about parenting. They might talk about what works for them and their families. But in the end, each parent decides what’s right for their own children, based on love and what they believe is best.
Bride Insists Her Bridesmaids Reimburse Her for Their Ceremony Dresses, but Swift Retribution Ensues
When my best friend Emily asked us to be her bridesmaids, we were excited for a day full of happiness and celebration. However, we didn’t expect the financial burden that would test our friendship and lead to an unforgettable moment.
In the bridal suite, excitement filled the air as Sarah helped me fix a stray piece of hair. The room smelled sweet like roses while Emily, glowing with excitement, moved from one bridesmaid to another, making sure everything was just right. Emily showed off her sparkling diamond-studded shoes, asking for my opinion. I assured her they looked stunning, and her sigh of relief was clear. She just wanted the day to be perfect.
Lisa chimed in, assuring Emily that everything was well planned and would go smoothly. Our spirits were high when Emily unveiled a lovely surprise for us, gorgeous bridesmaid dresses packed neatly in garment bags. As we unzipped them, we revealed beautiful pastels adorned with intricate lace and delicate embroidery.
Megan marveled at the dresses, while Sarah noted how expensive they must have been. Emily laughed, though her nerves showed a bit. She explained that you only get married once, and she wanted everything to be unforgettable.
The dresses fit beautifully, making us feel like we had stepped into a fairy tale. As we admired ourselves in the mirror, we felt elegant and magical. The ceremony was breathtaking, set under a floral archway as Emily walked toward James, radiating joy. Their vows told a heartfelt story, moving many to tears. When the officiant announced: “You may now kiss the bride”, the moment was filled with cheers as the newlyweds shared their first kiss, framed by flowers and the warm sunlight.
At the reception, the hall sparkled with fairy lights and laughter. As the celebration continued, Emily pulled us aside for a heartfelt moment. She thanked us for our support and for looking beautiful. However, her tone changed as she expressed a need for reimbursement for the dresses, $1,200 each.
Her request shocked us, dampening the festive atmosphere. Confusion washed over our group. Sarah voiced our collective disbelief, thinking the dresses were gifts. Emily clarified that she needed us to cover the cost, which made her visibly uncomfortable.
Megan responded, highlighting that such an expense was unexpected and too high for us to manage. Tension filled the room as we struggled with the sudden financial strain and what it meant for our friendship. Just then, a commotion caught our attention. A team of staff members struggled with a giant wedding cake that seemed much too large for the occasion. Emily rushed over, alarmed by the scene.
The delivery team explained there had been a mix-up with the order, a zero had accidentally been added, inflating the cake’s size. Emily’s surprise mirrored our own when we realized the irony of the situation: she had just placed a financial burden on us, and now she faced an equally daunting issue.
I suggested it might be a sign to reconsider the dress situation, hoping to ease the tension. Overwhelmed by her mistake, Emily nodded, acknowledging the truth in my words. She apologized, and we agreed to enjoy the night, planning to sort everything out later.
The evening transformed into a joyful occasion. The enormous cake, initially a source of stress, became a source of laughter and a highlight of the party. As the night went on, we danced and celebrated, the earlier tension fading away under the twinkling lights.
Reflecting on the night, Emily expressed her gratitude for our understanding. She realized the importance of people over material things. It wasn’t about the dresses or the cake; it was about the bonds we share.
We concluded the night with warm hugs and promises of unwavering support, regardless of any misunderstandings. It was a wedding we would always remember, filled with love and valuable lessons about friendship and the unexpected turns life can take. What would you have done in our situation?
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